One way we can rapidly lose our focus and energy is when we become emotionally caught up in issues or situations. Depending on the issue at hand, we may find ourselves angry, frustrated, jealous, frightened, cynical or paralysed with indecision. We may find ourselves locked into these emotions every time we think of the particular issues – we get ourselves stuck, in other words, in the 'basement', with our base level emotions. One way to avoid getting stuck is to take a 'penthouse'
A huge amount of energy is wasted being concerned or worried about things. So that we don't get overwhelmed by our numerous concerns, we need to know two things: (1) what is in our ‘circle of concern' and (2) what is in our ‘circle of influence'. There's a world of difference between the two. Many issues in our circle of concern are items we have no direct control or influence over i.e. we can't do anything abut them.
Thinking about every big and small issue, constantly? Feeling tired by burning up so much mental energy? Getting nowhere with the issues you're constantly ruminating on? Try the box technique. Note and mentally label all the issues/concerns you currently have i.e. mortgage, the house renovation, the lost documents. Consign them to separate ‘brain boxes' and only think of the different separate issues when you need to. Discipline yourself to do this (this is difficult to do,
Is there really such a thing as work and life balance? Do we need to have every aspect of our life in perfect balance? And what does balance mean, for every individual? While you dwell on these questions you may like to draw Waitley's Work/Life Pie to help you reach your own conclusions: (1) draw a circle (2) chunk it up into the core categories of physical, work, family, mental, spiritual, community, social and financial and the proportion of time you allocate to each category (3) draw another circle,
What are you tolerating on a daily basis? When you wander through your home or office, what grabs your eye and you think "oh, that's right, I must remember to fix that" or "I'll get onto that" and you never do? When you think about those ‘must do tolerations' does your energy immediately drop? Tolerations are huge energy drains and unless they're eliminated, they can create constant, just-below-the-surface stress. The good news is there is no need to tolerate the intolerable,
It's dead simple. Breathe! But not shallow breathing, but deep, slow breathing from the stomach level. Why is this good for you, you ask? Because it is almost physically impossible to be uptight and breath deeply at the same time. Try it and see what happens.
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